ANOLENE THANGAVELU PILLAY
Imagine a world where your bank account does not define your self-worth. A world where success is not measured by the size of your bank account but by the depth of your relationships, the richness of your experiences and the strength of your character? What if we have been chasing the wrong dream?
In a world where wisdom is a valued commodity, we are constantly reminded that our worth is connected to our bank accounts, possessions or status. The question, “What is your worth?”, becomes a constant storm raging in our minds and fuelled by endless streams of advertisements, social media and societal pressure. As a result, we’re left to wonder: Are we enough?
Living in a materialistic society where financial wealth is often seen as the ultimate benchmark of success, it is easy to overlook the profound impact of human connection on our lives. Yet, it is the unwavering support and strength of our loved ones that empower us to navigate life’s challenges and persevere through adversity. The comfort and emotional backing we receive from the relationships are the fabric of our well-being, far surpassing the fleeting security of our bank accounts. For the grand adventure of life, it is the threads of love, laughter and shared experiences that weave together to create a rich and meaningful existence, not the mere accumulation of wealth.
Discovering your self-worth is a personal journey where you’re the guide and the mapmaker. Only you can understand the depths of your strengths, passions, experiences and what makes you tick. Others may have their opinions but your self-worth is yours alone and no one else can define it. It can be shaped only by your experiences and perspectives. Note: what others think is just background noise; it is your own voice that matters. By embracing your true worth, you can unlock your full potential and live a life that is authentic and meaningful.
Unfortunately, the profound realisation often sinks in late in life, after years of built-up anger, resentment and emotional scars from trying to meet the expectations of others and living according to imposed social norms. Therefore, do not rely on others to tell you who you are. Your self-worth must come from within. Why not tap into your ability to explore the depths of your true worth?
Society often misleads us into believing that a high-paying job, a luxury car or a fancy house are key to happiness. In reality, true happiness is being around individuals who exude positive energy in a supportive environment, surrounded by good people who uplift and inspire us. It’s the meaningful connections, sense of belonging and togetherness that bring us happiness, not the material possessions or external validation.
Breaking free from the cycle demands a shift towards individual values, education and prioritising emotional intelligence to accurately assess your true worth. It is essential to recognise that individual worth extends far beyond your financial values. The qualities of empathy, kindness and compassion rooted in emotional intelligence, foster connections, inspire hope and create a sense of togetherness.
Individual qualities are invaluable and cannot be bought or sold. They are the fabric that weaves our society together, giving our lives meaning and purpose.
By embracing your inner sparkle, you can flip the script on negativity and become a magnet for good vibes. Self-love is the ingredient that transforms your energy, drawing in loving relationships and amazing experiences like a beacon of light.
It is like upgrading your mental software, trading in self-doubt for self-love and watching your life transform into a masterpiece of happiness and fulfilment.
However, in today’s world, we often prioritise money and material success over these values. Let us challenge ourselves to reassess our priorities. What if we placed a higher value on the qualities that make us human? What if we recognised that a person’s worth is not measured by their financial wealth but by the positive impact they have on those around them? True wealth lies not in the depth of one’s bank balances but in the richness of one’s character.
Imagine a world where love, respect and compassion are the currencies that shape our destiny, where every human life is valued as a precious gem and every individual is celebrated for the unique spark they bring to the world, and when that day comes, humanity will finally be able to say: “I am enough, just as I am.”
Anolene Thangavelu Pillay is a psychology adviser.
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