Singles’ Day: why dining alone is the ultimate act of self-love
Eating out solo can feel uncomfortable for many, especially in a world that often equates company with validation.
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Today, November 11, is Singles’ Day - also known as Double 11 - an unofficial holiday that began in China as a celebration of singlehood and has grown into the world’s largest event.
Across the globe, restaurants and retailers offer discounts and special deals to mark the occasion. But beyond the sales and social media trends, Singles’ Day is also a reminder to celebrate yourself - and one of the most empowering ways to do that is by dining alone.
Eating out solo can feel uncomfortable for many (myself included), especially in a world that often equates company with validation.
Yet choosing to dine alone is an act of independence and confidence. It allows you to enjoy your own company, set your own pace and appreciate the food without distraction.
Whether it’s lunch at a quiet café or dinner at your favourite restaurant, dining solo can be a simple yet profound way to connect with yourself.
When you sit down for a meal alone, you learn to be present. There’s no need to rush a conversation or check your phone for company.
You can savour each bite, observe your surroundings and enjoy the rhythm of the space. It’s mindfulness in its most accessible form - and it fosters self-awareness and comfort in solitude.
Dining alone is also a way to take control of your time and choices. You pick the restaurant, the table and the meal.
There’s freedom in ordering exactly what you want without compromise. It’s about doing something kind for yourself, on your own terms.
Eating out solo can feel uncomfortable for many, especially in a world that often equates company with validation.
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If you’re new to eating out solo, start small.
Go to a familiar spot for coffee or lunch, where the setting feels relaxed. Bring a book, journal or headphones if that makes you feel more comfortable. Gradually, you may find that you don’t need those distractions - that your own company is enough.
Choosing the right restaurant can make a difference, too. Opt for places with bar seating, shared tables or cosy corners where solo diners often feel at ease.
Weekdays or off-peak hours can also be less intimidating if you prefer a quieter environment.
Safety is important, especially when dining alone at night. Choose well-lit venues in areas you know, share your location with a friend and keep an eye on your belongings. If you drink alcohol, do so responsibly and make sure you can get home safely.
Dining solo can be as social or as private as you want it to be. You might chat briefly with the waiter, exchange smiles with another solo diner or simply focus on your meal. It’s your experience to shape - and that’s what makes it so rewarding.
So, this Singles’ Day, consider skipping the online shopping cart and taking yourself out instead.
A solo meal is more than just food - it’s a quiet celebration of self-respect, confidence and independence. Because the best company you can keep is your own.