As September marks Suicide Prevention Month, Kim Vermaak, an author, book coach, and advocate for paternal mental health, is calling attention to the often-ignored suffering of mothers.
In a country where suicide is a leading cause of maternal death, Vermaak aims to spotlight the urgent need for support for those navigating the choppy waters of maternal mental health.
According to the National Committee for Confidential Enquiries into Maternal Deaths (2018), suicide accounted for 1% of maternal deaths in South Africa between 2014 and 2016, a statistic echoed globally, where it represents 39% of direct maternal deaths within six weeks to 12 months postpartum, according to the Maternal Mental Health Alliance.
“These statistics are not just numbers; they represent mothers, daughters, sisters, and friends,” Vermaak emphasises.
Having experienced postpartum depression with all three of her children, Vermaak understands this pain intimately. “I know the overwhelming feelings of isolation and despair that can accompany motherhood. Often, I was consumed by intrusive thoughts, questioning my worth and ability as a mother. But it was faith, along with counselling and lifestyle changes, that guided me through it.”
Despite the high prevalence of postpartum depression, many parents continue to wear masks of normalcy, concealing significant struggles from the outside world. “Too often, parents suffer in silence, fearing judgement or not knowing where to turn,” Vermaak explains, adding, “It’s time to break the stigma and start a conversation.”
Vermaak further remains committed to raising awareness and providing crucial resources for those affected by maternal mental health issues. Through her platform, she offers support, shares personal experiences, and collaborates with mental health professionals to provide guidance and hope. “If you or someone you know is struggling, remember: you are not alone. Help is available, and recovery is possible,” she concludes.
Furthermore, the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) has launched its annual campaign in alignment with Suicide Prevention Month.
The group reveals that this year's theme, “Hope Starts with Talking,” serves as a powerful reminder that an open conversation is often the most necessary first step toward seeking help. Given that the stigma surrounding mental health can act as a barrier to seeking assistance, this campaign aims to shatter the silence.
“Suicide prevention is a collective responsibility. A simple conversation can be the difference between life and death. Our goal with this campaign is to equip every person with the confidence to have that life-changing chat and to know that help is available,” says Zamo Mbele, SADAG board member and clinical psychologist.
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Saturday Star